Boundaries and a Look a Results

Take time to write out your priorities and parameters. Set guardrails or boundaries.

I tend to overdo it when it comes to work – mostly because I love it so much. Yet other things are suffering when I get too drawn in. Last year (or was it the beginning of this year?), I was encouraged to put a weekend into my schedule. I didn’t have one! I work on Sundays. So, my weekend is Tuesday and Saturday. Tuesday is my family work day, and Saturday is – or should be – my Sabbath. That’s my weekly rhythm. I’m still working on my daily rhythms: chores, family, homeschool, work, study, sleep… they all need to happen most days of the week!

Having a realistic plan will not only help me have peace, but it’ll help my family know what to expect – I’ll also be modeling a healthier way to do things.

Boundaries are gifts! We all need them. They help us explore what is good to the fullest and have joy and peace.

Let us therefore strive to enter that rest, so that no one may fall by the same sort of disobedience.

Hebrews 4:11 (ESV)

Another area I overdo – it has to be right… my way! I’m working on that. The parameter is to not voice the “injustice” or thing done wrong. Table the annoyance in a journal entry and let it go. The priority is that relationship is more important as is keeping the peace.
Please Note: I’m talking about preferences and annoyances here, and not anything of significance. Examples: how the dishwasher is loaded or which hole to use when sharpening the pencil in the electric sharpener.

What are the main obsessions of those around me?
gaming, YouTube/TV, and social media

Technology is great, but it can also be a great trap.

Be led by the Spirit, and not the flesh.

16 But I say, walk by the Spirit, and you will not gratify the desires of the flesh. 17 For the desires of the flesh are against the Spirit, and the desires of the Spirit are against the flesh, for these are opposed to each other, to keep you from doing the things you want to do. 18 But if you are led by the Spirit, you are not under the law. 19 Now the works of the flesh are evident: sexual immorality, impurity, sensuality, 20 idolatry, sorcery, enmity, strife, jealousy, fits of anger, rivalries, dissensions, divisions, 21 envy, drunkenness, orgies, and things like these. I warn you, as I warned you before, that those who do such things will not inherit the kingdom of God. 22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law.

Galatians 5:16-23 (ESV)

The results (or fruit) of the flesh:

19 Now the works of the flesh are evident: sexual immorality, impurity, sensuality, 20 idolatry, sorcery, enmity, strife, jealousy, fits of anger, rivalries, dissensions, divisions, 21 envy, drunkenness, orgies, and things like these. I warn you, as I warned you before, that those who do such things will not inherit the kingdom of God.

Galatians 5:19-21 (ESV)

The fruit (or results) of the Spirit:

22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law.

Galatians 5:22-23 (ESV)

To resist the flesh, you need to be in prayer, be diligent in your study of the Word, apply what you learned, and be open to and guided by the Spirit’s promptings.

How does excess squeeze out the enjoyment of life?
Excess food & laziness results in discomfort and pain, and often more expensive medical care. Excess technology sacrifices relationships of those close to you, and can limit your ability to form healthy relationships.

Sometimes the answer needs to be no. This requires self-control and inner strength. Discipline.

Spiritual Qualities

For this very reason, make every effort to supplement your faith with virtue, and virtue with knowledge, and knowledge with self-control, and self-control with steadfastness, and steadfastness with godliness, and godliness with brotherly affection, and brotherly affection with love. For if these qualities are yours and are increasing, they keep you from being ineffective or unfruitful in the knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ.

2 Peter 1:5-8 (emphasis added)

Faith, virtue, knowledge, self-control, steadfastness, godliness, brotherly affection, and love are all spiritual qualities that should be growing in every Christian out of our love for Jesus through the help of the Holy Spirit.