Boundaries and a Look a Results

Take time to write out your priorities and parameters. Set guardrails or boundaries.

I tend to overdo it when it comes to work – mostly because I love it so much. Yet other things are suffering when I get too drawn in. Last year (or was it the beginning of this year?), I was encouraged to put a weekend into my schedule. I didn’t have one! I work on Sundays. So, my weekend is Tuesday and Saturday. Tuesday is my family work day, and Saturday is – or should be – my Sabbath. That’s my weekly rhythm. I’m still working on my daily rhythms: chores, family, homeschool, work, study, sleep… they all need to happen most days of the week!

Having a realistic plan will not only help me have peace, but it’ll help my family know what to expect – I’ll also be modeling a healthier way to do things.

Boundaries are gifts! We all need them. They help us explore what is good to the fullest and have joy and peace.

Let us therefore strive to enter that rest, so that no one may fall by the same sort of disobedience.

Hebrews 4:11 (ESV)

Another area I overdo – it has to be right… my way! I’m working on that. The parameter is to not voice the “injustice” or thing done wrong. Table the annoyance in a journal entry and let it go. The priority is that relationship is more important as is keeping the peace.
Please Note: I’m talking about preferences and annoyances here, and not anything of significance. Examples: how the dishwasher is loaded or which hole to use when sharpening the pencil in the electric sharpener.

What are the main obsessions of those around me?
gaming, YouTube/TV, and social media

Technology is great, but it can also be a great trap.

Be led by the Spirit, and not the flesh.

16 But I say, walk by the Spirit, and you will not gratify the desires of the flesh. 17 For the desires of the flesh are against the Spirit, and the desires of the Spirit are against the flesh, for these are opposed to each other, to keep you from doing the things you want to do. 18 But if you are led by the Spirit, you are not under the law. 19 Now the works of the flesh are evident: sexual immorality, impurity, sensuality, 20 idolatry, sorcery, enmity, strife, jealousy, fits of anger, rivalries, dissensions, divisions, 21 envy, drunkenness, orgies, and things like these. I warn you, as I warned you before, that those who do such things will not inherit the kingdom of God. 22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law.

Galatians 5:16-23 (ESV)

The results (or fruit) of the flesh:

19 Now the works of the flesh are evident: sexual immorality, impurity, sensuality, 20 idolatry, sorcery, enmity, strife, jealousy, fits of anger, rivalries, dissensions, divisions, 21 envy, drunkenness, orgies, and things like these. I warn you, as I warned you before, that those who do such things will not inherit the kingdom of God.

Galatians 5:19-21 (ESV)

The fruit (or results) of the Spirit:

22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law.

Galatians 5:22-23 (ESV)

To resist the flesh, you need to be in prayer, be diligent in your study of the Word, apply what you learned, and be open to and guided by the Spirit’s promptings.

How does excess squeeze out the enjoyment of life?
Excess food & laziness results in discomfort and pain, and often more expensive medical care. Excess technology sacrifices relationships of those close to you, and can limit your ability to form healthy relationships.

Sometimes the answer needs to be no. This requires self-control and inner strength. Discipline.

Breath: making room for Sabbath

Slavery inventory: What holds control over me? What do I have a hard time saying no to?

  • Working (but I love my job!)
  • GTD, actually doing and the tools to do the things
  • Social Media
  • Procrastination
  • Overthinking
  • Family

Some of these aren’t great, but many of them are good things!

Sabbath Principle

“The Sabbath principle can keep these things from bossing us around, controlling our lives, and becoming masters over us… it’s the key to freedom.”

Priscilla Shirer, Breath

Sabbath rest is a healthy boundary. Sabbath in Hebrew is Shabbat = to cease, stop, pause, to come to an end.

And on the seventh day God finished his work that he had done, and he rested on the seventh day from all his work that he had done.

Genesis 2:2 (ESV)

God had Sabbath rest in mind from the beginning. Creation wasn’t completed until rest was created. Not just “not doing” rest, but tranquility, serenity, and peace.

“Rest was the capstone of creation and without it the universe would be incomplete.”

Priscilla Shirer, Breath

Rest is active. You have to chose rest. You have to really commit to it and create space for it. Rest guards our hearts in Christ Jesus. In other words, to allow space for rest, I must be intentional in creating margin throughout my life.

“Margin in families creates memories. Margin in our personal finances creates generosity. Margin in our friendships creates significance and impact. Margin in our lives overall creates options. Options to pursue dreams, think, pray, relax, meditate, process, grow, and ultimately live life more fully.”

Brad Lomenick (from Breath, by Priscilla Shirer)

When rest gets labeled at lazy or causes guilty feelings…

I grapple with a chronic pain condition. It’s only in the past few years that I’ve learned when to rest, which is often, and when to take it slow, which is often. I’ve been accused (by those who don’t know) of being lazy, but I know how much work it takes to arrange all this required rest and still get some things done. I wasn’t hurt by this accusation because they really don’t know. However, I do wonder how to best respond in kindness without discussing my medical condition in nauseous detail. Do I respond at all?

The fact is, I do often feel guilty about not being able to keep up with my own ambitions. I build rest in, but I often view it as wasting time even though I obviously need it! Perhaps it is a matter of focus? I’m focused on the stuff I’d rather be doing rather than God.

Sometimes I ponder how to make rest more productive! Craft, read, study, write, pray… Am I just trying to fill a void? I’m beginning to determine there’s a difference in Sabbath rest and rest. Both are needed, but only one is driven by a focus on God and drawing closer to Him. It doesn’t take much thinking to know that Sabbath rest is better.

Why do I try to keep so busy?

Yeah, that’s the question! Let’s see… I don’t know how to be still. I feel useless if I’m not producing. I feel this weird need to prove myself – not to anyone in particular, but maybe to myself. I’m seeking the satisfaction of tasks that are done and done well (recognized or not).

Rest and margin is not just a principle of time, but applies to other areas of life as well, like finances and stuff/clutter.

“The very essence of the Sabbath principle – to cease, stop striving, and trust – went completely against their nature, making it extremely difficult… they needed to practice the discipline of freedom. A change in their hearts would be the result of practical changes in their lifestyle.”

Priscilla Shirer, Breath

he said to them, “This is what the Lord has commanded: ‘Tomorrow is a day of solemn rest, a holy Sabbath to the Lord; bake what you will bake and boil what you will boil, and all that is left over lay aside to be kept till the morning.’”

Exodus 16:23 (ESV)

This verse is the first time that the word Sabbath is used. It is proposing a huge lifestyle change for these slaves just liberated from Egypt. It was a lifestyle change intended to change their hearts.